i’m 24 and this is most of what i know
– buy yourself flowers
– don’t avoid talking about things you don’t know about. don’t be afraid to sound dumb
– write (or type it into your iPhone notes) everything down — thoughts, ideas, heard things, words you want to start using, things you want to learn about, grocery lists, goals — everything. don’t be embarrassed to say “Hold on, I gotta write that down”
– tell people you appreciate them, they’ll appreciate it
– go for a drive/ bike ride/ walk — focus only on what you’re seeing/ smelling/ feeling/ etc, nothing else
– call off from work (but don’t make it a habit !!) — experiences and well-being are sometimes more important
– record the process of things
– find and connect with people who are amazed by the same things you are
– find and connect with people who are amazed by different things you are
– share secrets with strangers/ people you’ve just met
– as corny as it sounds, put yourself in other people’s shoes
– close that window with 27 tabs open
– collect things
– embrace technology/ social media, even though it might suck and make you feel bad. you can MAKE it not suck and NOT make you feel bad
– run as fast as you can then immediately lay in the grass
– tell people how you feel. be open with your thoughts and feelings
– sit in a coffeeshop by yourself and listen to people’s conversations
– ask questions. be eager to learn. knowing more than you knew before feels so good.
– know your limit (work, projects, drinking/ drugs, emotions, relationships). it’s okay to be selfish and treat yourself well
– don’t feel bad about not being as good/ successful (whatever that means) as other people. there’s still time
– understand that sometimes people are going through things — their actions towards you are sometimes more reflective of that and have nothing to do with your worth or you !
– lend somebody a book and never get it back. buy that book again and reread it to underline the parts you underlined before
– learn from mistakes. own up to them and improve
– sometimes you just can’t describe what you experience. go with your initial reaction. if the ocean looks “so blue!” then describe it as “so blue!” (shoutout Durga Chew-Bose)
– pay attention to your actions and how things make you truly feel, then act accordingly
– experience, experience, experience, even if it’s sometimes bad
– print this out and make it a living object
– remember that everyone is just a Person
suggested readings/viewings:
Pina (2011)
The Collected Stories of Lydia Davis, Lydia Davis (2009)
Sometimes Making Something Leads to Nothing, Francis Alÿs (Mexico City, 1997) https://vimeo.com/566696246
Diagrammatic Writing, Johanna Drucker (2013) https://will-luers.com/DTC/dtc354/diagrammatic_writing.pdf
Too Much and Not the Mood, Durga Chew-Bose (2017)
Cutaways, Taryn Simon (2012) http://tarynsimon.com/works/cutaways/#2
a syllabus by Diego Rodriguez
